1) Use your hands and hips to guide him

When he’s touching you, don’t just lie there hoping he’ll stumble on the right spot show him. Place your hand over his and move it exactly where you want it, pressing down to show him the pressure you crave. If he’s inside you, roll your hips against him until he feels the rhythm that makes you throb. Men love clear signals, and when you guide with your body instead of a lecture, he gets the message without his ego bruised. It’s sexy, it’s direct, and it saves both of you the guesswork. Think of it as teaching him a dance he leads, but you set the tempo with your hips and hands until the beat feels perfect.

2) Speak up without killing the mood

Moaning is hot, but words are power. Instead of just gasping, add in short, clear phrases he can follow like, “Right there,” or, “Don’t stop.” The key is to keep it simple and dirty, not clinical. Whisper in his ear when you want him slower, growl his name when you want him harder. Men thrive on feedback they want to know they’re driving you wild. By telling him what’s working in real time, you build his confidence and push yourself closer to climax. And the truth is, nothing turns a man on more than hearing exactly how to make his wife come.

3) Position yourself for maximum pleasure

Don’t wait for him to guess your favorite angle take control of the setup. If you know you come best with clitoral stimulation, climb on top so you can grind against him at just the right spot. If you need a slower rhythm, pull him into a spooning position where you control the depth and speed. Use pillows to raise your hips, tilt your pelvis, or make access easier for his mouth or hands. When you move with intention, he doesn’t have to wonder whether he’s hitting the right places you’ve already put him there. This way, you’re not just a passive body; you’re an active partner steering the pleasure straight toward orgasm.

4) Show him what you like with your own hands

If he’s still learning, the best lesson is demonstration. Touch yourself in front of him slow, confident, unapologetic and let him watch how your body responds. Slide your fingers where you want his mouth, rub in the rhythm that takes you over the edge, then invite his hand to replace yours. Most men find this incredibly hot, and it removes all mystery about what makes you tick. It’s not about replacing him, it’s about teaching him in the most erotic way possible. He’ll memorize every move you show, and you’ll reap the rewards every time he repeats them. Plus, nothing bonds you both like the intimacy of letting him see exactly how you take yourself to orgasm.

5) Reward him when he gets it right

Positive reinforcement works in bed just like it does anywhere else. When he nails the pressure, rhythm, or position, let him know with a flood of praise: moan louder, grab him tighter, whisper how amazing he feels. Afterward, tell him one specific thing he did that blew your mind “When you stayed right there with your tongue, I couldn’t stop shaking.” Men love knowing they’ve mastered a technique, and the more you celebrate his wins, the more eager he’ll be to repeat them. You’re not just training him; you’re building a cycle of pleasure where he feels like the hero and you get the orgasms you deserve. That’s a win-win every night of the week.